Today am touching on relationships again. May seem kinda boring but in my opinion I think relationships subject is one of the largest subjects talked about. But I can understand why as relationships keep growing and changing day by day. Most people know of the marriage kind of relationship, family one and lovers kind. All of which are true and do exist but I want my main focus to be on the lovers kind; more of boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. I have read on the internet on how many people try to figure out if they are in a right relationship or if they are dating the right person and so on and so forth. But there is never quite knowing the right or the perfect person coz each one of us got flaws and imperfections.
When I first started dating, I was in love. I mean we spent most of the time together doing things that we love, went out on movie dates and all those stuff that lovers do. Funny thing is that one day after a picnic date he tried kissing me for the first time. Sounds romantic right!!!! But I slapped him and went away so mad I didn’t even want to talk to him ever again. In my defense, I wasn’t prepared for such kind of party but he on the other hand felt the time was right. We later reconciled and went back to normal. But it got me thinking, COMMUNICATION is always key to a successful relationship as psychologists have always told us. Not that I mean communicating when a boy wants to kiss a girl as that would sound cheesy. Am talking about other stuff such as arguments, problems, ideas etc. Maybe you might be the kind of person like me who when an argument arises you apply the silent treatment or avoid talking about it. This is actually poison to a relationship as stuff pile up and eventually they explode. The solution to this might be to avoid it now but ensure you talk it later. Never assume even small stuff like He kept a profile pic of another girl and maybe it has affected you. As you may assume and never ask him about it but raise it up in another argument making things go haywire and ruining things for the both of you.
For ladies I found this interesting quote, “If he…makes you laugh. Kisses your forehead, says he’s sorry, makes an effort. Holds your hand, works hard, attempts to understand you….then believe it or not, he’s quite perfect.” So what does this all quite mean….It simply means that you look at how your man or lady treats you as maybe you might just be having a perfect one but you don’t quite realize it. Remember the saying, “Sometimes what you are looking for is right in front of your face,”…Its very much real if only you pay more attention.
For those who have been hurt before don’t worry I got something for you from Paulo Coelho: But LOVE is always new.
