LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX!!!!

Have you ever had a relationship going so well until your faced with the dilemma, Do we do it? Do we not? I will tell you first hand that i have had such a situation. Sex issue as we know it, isn't like what was before, No Sex before Marriage. The 21st Century has made it such that its wrong to be a virgin by the time one is 18 years of age. Many relationships are being broken because of the wrong concept of sex. Many people are taking it casually, no big deal especially on the male side as opposed to the female side whereby so many emotions are associated with having sex not to count of the various pre caution we must undertake to ensure we don't ruin our future by getting pregnant or worse still acquiring a deadly disease like HIV/AIDS.
I was in church on Sunday and the priest touched on a very sensitive topic on how us youth go all wrong on matters/issues concerning sex. We take it as an essential or defining part of a relationship. That we can't have a fun if sex is not on the picture. Better yet, we can't even have movie nights that don't end up in us having sex. But that shouldn't be the case at all because having sex has never been a prove of love as prostitutes would be in love with so many of their clients.
Yes the bible and the church put sex in the contest of marriage but we can confidently agree that we have moved past that and we need to discuss on how we view sex. And here is where I pose a question, How do you view sex?? Is it a pain killer, stress reliever, prove of love, to be titled as a player, prove of maturity or is it a strengthening of a bond in your relationship?? Because this really matters especially if you are in a relationship or planning to get into one.
The question of the right time to do it will then be answered by how you view sex. For instance, if its a stress reliever for you then the time for you will be when you are stressed. But would this really be the right time??!!! Absolutely not!!!! because they are certainly better ways to manage stress that don't necessarily have to involve sex. The same goes for proving to someone that you love them or worse to show that you are a player. This is because the end results would be regrets, bad breakups, unwanted pregnancies and abortions, diseases all arising from this.
So, I won't sit here and tell you whether to have sex or not, that's upon you but I will certainly advice you one thing, why don't you give it time especially if you are in a relationship. There's no hurry!!!! Let your relationship grow first, find other ways you can have fun, have movie nights in cinemas, talk about sex, your individual opinions and views, let the both of you be comfortable with each other first before getting in to the action and when you try this approach, I guarantee that sex will be more than just a casual affair.